top of page
  • Writer's pictureMichelle Niver, RN, MSN

Grief Support Series: Navigating Forgiveness vs. Acceptance


hand catching a feather in the sunlight

Grief can be an intricate labyrinth of emotions, with each turn presenting a new challenge for those who encounter its path. In the midst of this journey, two concepts often emerge as beacons of hope: Forgiveness and acceptance. Despite their apparent similarity, they are two distinct processes, each with its own power to heal and transform.


As a psychic grief coach, I have witnessed firsthand the profound impact that understanding these differences can have on one's journey through grief. In this article, I will discuss the essences of forgiveness and acceptance, exploring their subtleties and guiding you toward a more profound understanding of grief.


Understanding Forgiveness


Forgiveness is often misunderstood as condoning or excusing the actions of others. However, true forgiveness transcends judgment and retribution. It is a conscious decision to release the grip of resentment and anger that binds us to the past.


Forgiveness is not about forgetting or pretending that the hurt never occurred. Rather, it is about acknowledging the pain and choosing to let go of its hold on our hearts. It is a journey of the soul, a sacred act of self-liberation.


When we forgive, we reclaim our power and reclaim control of our own narrative. We no longer allow the actions of others to dictate our emotional state. Instead, we choose to rise above the pain and embrace the transformative power of compassion and empathy.


Forgiveness is not always easy. It requires courage and vulnerability to confront the wounds of the past and choose forgiveness over bitterness. Yet, the rewards are immeasurable. In forgiving others, we free ourselves from the chains of resentment and open our hearts to love and healing.


I have seen clients experience profound shifts in their energy and outlook through the act of forgiveness. It is a powerful catalyst for growth and transformation, paving the way for inner peace and spiritual evolution.


Understanding Acceptance


Acceptance is another crucial aspect of the grief journey, yet it is often overshadowed by the allure of forgiveness. While forgiveness focuses on releasing the past, acceptance is about embracing the present moment as it is. It is about surrendering to the reality of our circumstances, no matter how painful or challenging they may be.


Acceptance does not mean resignation or defeat. Rather, it is an act of radical self-compassion. It is about acknowledging our limitations and embracing our imperfections with grace and humility as well as embracing the fact that we cannot control the actions of another. Acceptance allows us to find meaning and purpose in the midst of adversity, transforming our pain into a source of wisdom and strength.


Acceptance is not passive; it is an active choice to engage fully with life, despite its uncertainties and hardships. It requires courage to confront our fears and embrace the unknown. Yet, in doing so, we discover a newfound sense of freedom and liberation. We no longer cling to the illusion of control but instead surrender to the ebb and flow of life with open hearts and minds.


Forgiveness vs. Acceptance


While forgiveness and acceptance are distinct processes, they are intrinsically linked. Forgiveness paves the way for acceptance by releasing the emotional baggage that weighs us down.


Acceptance is the ultimate destination, the place where we find peace and serenity amidst the chaos of life.


Forgiveness is a gift we give to others and ourselves, a gesture of love and compassion that transcends judgment and resentment. Acceptance is the fruit of forgiveness, the blossoming of our souls as we embrace the fullness of our humanity with grace and humility.


In the grief journey, both forgiveness and acceptance are essential companions, guiding us toward healing and wholeness. By understanding the difference between the two, we can navigate the twists and turns of grief with greater clarity and wisdom.


Grief Support: Practical Steps for Cultivating Forgiveness and Acceptance


Cultivate Self-awareness


Take time to reflect on your thoughts and emotions, acknowledging the areas where forgiveness and acceptance are needed.


Practice Mindfulness


Bring mindful awareness to your present moment experience, allowing yourself to fully feel and experience your emotions without judgment or resistance.


Engage in forgiveness practices


Explore forgiveness practices such as loving-kindness meditation or writing forgiveness letters to release resentment and cultivate compassion.


Embrace Acceptance


Practice embracing life as it is, acknowledging both the joys and sorrows with equanimity and grace.


Seek Support


Reach out to a psychic grief coach or therapist for guidance and support on your journey toward forgiveness and acceptance.


In Summary


In the journey of grief, forgiveness and acceptance are our trusted companions, guiding us toward healing, transformation, and soul evolution. By embracing the essence of forgiveness and acceptance, we can navigate the complexities of grief with better grace and resilience.


One of the reasons I am so passionate about psychic mediumship readings is that when a spirit comes through to apologize for the hurts and damage they caused during their physical life, it can be one of the most transformative experiences for moving forward from grief.


If you are ready to move forward through grief with greater ease, consider a psychic reading or grief counseling session at Sacred Awaken - I offer phone, video and in-person sessions.


I wish you solace and joy in the power of forgiveness and acceptance as you journey through the labyrinth of grief, emerging stronger and wiser on the other side.


In Gratitude for the Journey, Michelle


Flowing water, rocks and trees



bottom of page